Why is it that in some cases it is not until a person dies before we are genuinely willing to reflect on what they mean to us? It's easy to get frustrated with people, to be irritated at folks because of both little things and big things. Then, when that person comes to mind, it’s the irritations we remember and not the things we value about this person. In contrast think about how remarkable Paul’s brief statement is about the Ephesians recorded here in chapter 1 of his letter to them.
Ephesians 1:16 (ESV) 16 I do not cease to give thanks for you, remembering you in my prayers,
Following Paul's example could greatly alleviate most any relational problem. Try this: For the sake of shocking your system, when you are frustrated with someone, imagine their funeral, and reflect on what we would say if called upon to speak on this topic: “here is what I will miss about my friend.” Whatever that is, that is the very material for which we you can now express gratitude to God. Let's focus on those things about each other, let’s not cease giving thanks for the people in our life and what they bring to our lives that we would miss and let us not cease remembering them in our prayers.